The Tagline
“Because what we inherit is just the beginning…”
We inherit more than eye color and body type.
More than a laugh that echoes a parent’s or a recipe passed down from generation to generation.
We inherit resilience.
Faith.
Work ethic.
Creativity.
Sacrifice
Unfortunately, we also inherit silence.
Secrets.
Shame.
Unspoken expectations.
Wounds wrapped in survival.
For Gen X-ers and those before us, we grew up in households where certain things just weren’t discussed.
You didn’t talk back.
You didn’t ask too many questions.
You didn’t challenge what made you uncomfortable.
Mental illness was “just stress.”
Addiction was “just how your uncle is.”
Abuse—if spoken of at all—was brushed off as something you just get over.
Crying was weak.
Talking back was disrespect.
Asking for help was out of the question.
These patterns (good, bad, or indifferent) didn’t start with us. Yet, we have the power to decide what continues or begins with us.
Because what we inherit is just the beginning…
That phrase is more than a tagline for this blog—it’s a truth I’m learning to live by.
It’s what led me to start writing in the first place.
To name the things.
To heal out loud.
To create space for the kind of reflection and transformation I didn’t always see growing up.
And I’m not just talking about theory. I’m talking about real life:
- Choosing counseling over silence.
- Having honest conversations with my elders, even when it’s uncomfortable.
- Acknowledge differences in perspectives between me and my spouse.
- Inviting my children into open, grace-filled conversations instead of lectures.
- Listening to their voices without dismissing them just because they’re younger.
- Prioritizing my health – physical, emotional, mental, spiritual.
These are the ways I’m doing my part to break toxic generational patterns and create healthy ones rooted in truth, healing, and faith.
Not because it’s easy.
But because the future of my bloodline depends on it.
Healing work is legacy work.
When we face what’s been handed down, we give the next generation a head start.
When we name the patterns, we take away their power.
When we invite God into our stories, He doesn’t just help us survive—He transforms.
And no, it doesn’t all happen overnight.
But it can start with one conversation, today.
One prayer, today.
One choice to do things differently, today.
That’s why this space exists.
Not as a platform to preach from, but as a place to process—with you.
To reflect.
To stretch.
To breathe.
To heal.
So maybe take a moment today—breathe, look around, and ask yourself:
- What patterns have I carried that no longer serve me?
- What stories have I accepted without questioning?
- What conversations am I being called to start—with my parents, my children, my partner, myself, or with God?
You don’t have to have all the answers.
You don’t have to do it perfectly.
But you can begin.
And I hope this space helps you feel less alone as you do.
Because what we inherit is just the beginning.
The rest?
Well, we get to write that story.